Does your job (current or former) impact how you interact with your child(ren)?
Back in the days of middle school Spanish teaching, I taught at a school that was a Baldrige in Education school. Part of the BiE system was to create through class discussions the key characteristics of a Quality Teacher and a Quality Student.
My school gave each teacher a huge poster-sized empty outline of a person on which we were to write the characteristics which were decided on by multivoting. The posters were to hang in our classroom and to be used to guide our teaching, as a point of discussion with the class, etc.
As Susanna moves further into toddler hood, I started thinking about those posters that played a huge role in my classroom. I wondered what would happen if I created a drawing of the key characteristics that would best describe the Mom to Susanna.
So on Saturday I opened up my sketch book, laid in bed after Susanna was sleeping for the night, and said a little prayer of guidance. I sought to understand who was the best Mom to Susanna- as opposed to who I perceive myself to be. (Please note that I am very well aware that the Mom to a Future Child will possibly be different than the Mom to Susanna.)
The process of writing “Mom to Susanna” and then beginning a characteristic web was awesome! I loved it! I was shocked by some of the words that came off of my finger tips and were written by my pencil, but I trusted that my heart knew what was best.
I kept my brain out of it, and just wrote. I listened. I trusted. I let it go. Until I shared with Scott.
He responded, “that sums it up. It fits her perfectly, for both of us. There were some things you said that were rang very true for me.”
The first word I wrote was calm. Our daughter needs a calm Mom. She’s fiery, passionate, full of life, and is herself. She needs a calm, stable, go to, loving Mom. (Got it…)
Another thing that I wrote and kept coming back to was patient. I could have written it at least three times. Scott and I have talked from very early on in Susanna’s life (like day two or three early on) about how she needs us to be patient with her. Our daughter is amazing, full of life, and needs patient parents.
Other things caught me just so. They’re personal, so I’m keeping them to me and us. One day I might share it with Susanna. I might also revisit it every year and see if things have changed. I don’t know.
This is my first time doing it, but I loved the process. I enjoyed reflecting on what our daughter needs… so I can be the best Mom to her.
Do you reflect on what your child(ren) need(s)? What kind of parent do you feel is best for your child(ren)?